Anything you do to overcome or prevent, causes a spotlight on the very thing you are wanting to overcome and prevent. You cannot take enough action to compensate for the Energy that you're flowing.

--- Abraham

So the deal is and always been that fighting against something keeps our attention on it.  turning our attention to something else is always the key.  It's not about ignoring the person, place of thing that feels bad; it's about turning your attention to what feels good right here, right now.  It could be anything.  What makes you feel good?  Chocolate ice cream?  A beautiful sunrise? 

One day I was sitting in a grocery store snack bar talking on the phone.  I was alone yet still I was filled with anxiety and despair from the running conversation in my mind.  As I was whining on the phone, someone grabbed me around the waist.  Startled I looked down and found the 4 year old daughter of a friend hugging me tightly.  I laughed and immediately hung up the phone. 

"Where's your mommy?"  I asked.  The little girl pointed a few feet away where her mother stood grinning at me.  I rose and went over to hug the mother.  Another friend soon approached and another round of hugs ensued.  We chatted briefly and then I went on about my day.

Half an hour later I left the store.  The negative discourse in my mind began again threatening to trigger negative feelings about someone and something I could not change. What was my defense?  I began reciting the names of the people in the grocery store, "Kayla, Allison, Angela.  Kayla, Allison, Angela.  Kayla . . . "  I spent the rest of the day reciting their names every time despair or sadness about my "reality" arose.

Did the reality of my situation change?  No.  But for that day, I felt better.

What can you think about or remember today that feels good? 

Note:  This usually doesn't work with people or things to which we have emotional attachment because we seem to think that emotional attachment gives us some right to strong opinions about how they should live their lives.  It must be something that is free of all negative emotion.  Thinking of a child, grandchild or spouse whom you would eventually worry about or miss or feel guilt about will not work.  I know we've talked about this before but I forget, don't you?

If your desire is strong enough, it doesn't matter what your beliefs are. If you have a desire that is strong enough, that desire will be the dominant vibration, and it will over-ride any other vibration that you have.

--- Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Atlanta, GA on Saturday, September 13th, 1997 #387

Our Love,
Jerry and Esther

Every time you praise something, every time you appreciate something, every time you feel good about something, you are telling the Universe, "More of this, please. More of this, please." You need never again make another verbal statement of this intent, and if you were allowing your cork to float -- all good things would flow to you.

--- Abraham

In her recent post, Give Others the Opportunity to Help You on Women on Business, Bonnie Marcus writes about giving a workshop on Promoting Your Brand to Rhode Island Networking to Open Doors to Jobs.  Bonnie relates how everyone was interactive and helpful with the women who were focused on their target market; however, there was one woman there who was in "limbo" and didn't know what she wanted going forward.  Her needs were met with silence.  At the end of the articles, Bonnie advises, "If you are looking for new employment, be clear about what type of company you want to work for and what kind of position you are seeking."

Who needs help more than the woman in limbo?  The woman who feels confused?  Lost?  Unsure?  My reaction is from my own sensitivity to feeling in limbo and it's from my experience in being helped and helping others find clarity.

I need help when I don't feel confident; when I don't know what I want; when I feel confused.  The questions is, "can I be honest about where I'm at and what I'm feeling?"  I've been in that state for months.  Even now clarity is elusive so I've asked for help from professional coaches and consultants.

At first, I felt full of financial fear and desperate to find a job.  I began applying for every position that I thought I could do.  After a couple of weeks of anxious activity, I slowed down.  The key was that I was looking for a "job", not a "career".  I didn't need a huge salary; just enough to live.  I needed something to do for my mental health while I waited for my massage therapy license to be transferred from state-to-state and stabilized enough to refocus on my life coaching business.  I wanted structure and an opportunity to connect with other people so I could reconnect with myself.  The solution was to apply only to companies whose products I loved:  Starbucks, Whole Foods, Panera Bread and White House Black Market.

I look at this time of "limbo" in my life as research for finding focus and clarity once again.  Rather than looking for the answer to the "big problems" before me, I looked for the next step in that process.  What do I need right here, right now?  What's next?

What do you think? What do you do when you feel like you're in "limbo"? How do you help someone who feels that way?

It doesn't matter what anybody else is doing with their vibration, it only matters what you are doing. You cannot desire something—and notice that it isn't coming—without offering two contradictory vibrations that won't let it come.

--- Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Boca Raton, FL on Saturday, January 15th, 2005 #359

People say, "The joy is in the journey," but they rarely understand what they are saying. You are in this focused time/space reality with goals and objectives that call you because as you identify a desire it literally summons life through you. Life summoning through you is what it's all about --it's not the completion of anything.

--- Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Chicago, IL on Sunday, November 1st, 1998 #323

Our Love,
Jerry and Esther

After a long period of disharmony and sleepless nights, I heard a small voice in my mind say, "Pixie, what would you say to a client?  What would you do if you weren't afraid?"

My truth was, "I would go."

As my heart was breaking on the 3rd day of traveling, I received this message from Tut - Notes from the Universe:

"Thanks, Pixie, for every single time you've fallen in love.  Whether or not it was obvious.  Whether or not it lasted.  And, whether or not you were loved back.  It changed everything."
 
So here I am over 2000 miles from the farm that I loved, friends, family, . . . Dharma and I arrived last night.  Last night was the first time I've slept more than 4 hours in months.  Within 24 hours of being on the road, my neck, back & shoulders stopped hurting.


My husband & I are friendlier to each other now that we're apart.  Yesterday I meditated on what I could do to be unconditionally loving in this situation.  By the end of the day, the voice said "The most loving thing you can do for you and for him is to let go absolutely."

When I stay focused and don't make up stories, assess blame, and find freedom from judgment & criticism, my truth is that I want to be here in Washington State.  Maybe all the events from the moment that became my intention to now were synchronistic leading to this manifestation.  Viewing everything from that perspective, there is no blame.

Last night after we arrived, Dharma was introduced to her new friends.  She loves Michele and warmed up to Jim quickly after he allowed her to lick his plate.  Michele's cat, Tasha, isn't too crazy about Dharma but we're hopeful that she'll adapt.


Jim did the loveliest thing.  He looked up the meaning of Dharma and found this on Wikipedia:

". . . an Indian spiritual and religious term that means one's righteous duty, or any virtuous path.^[1][2] A Hindu's dharma is affected by a person's age, class, occupation, and gender.^[3] In Indian languages it can be equivalent simply to religion, depending on context. The word dharma translates as that which upholds or supports, and is generally translated into English as law. . . . beings that live in accordance with Dharma proceed more quickly toward . . .  nirvana . . . "

We all laughed and went on a riff about how we all had to live in accordance with Dharma by giving her scraps, playing with her, letting her lick the plate so we would reach nirvana quickly.


Dharma & I went outside and reviewed the boundaries of her yard and took photos to share this experience with you.  She played along the beach in front of the house and explored the dock.  We played tag joyfully.  For a moment, I stopped to bend down and hug her neck.  Tears welled up in my eyes as my heart swelled with a mixture of joy and sadness.

Dharma is at home wherever I am.  I am at home in the Universe.

Are you holding onto the past so tightly that you cannot move into your now? 

The Universe loves symbolism.  It loves when we stand with our arms open wide to embrace all the goodness it has to offer.  It love when we smile, when we clean our closets . . .

Today I symbolically burned some old legal documents.  Relics from my past evidencing an time of extreme unmanageability.  The documents included custody battles, visitation battles, divorce decrees (yes, decreeS), and restraining orders.  The time has past when I need them to prove my innocence or use then to manipulate another person's behavior. 

As I watched them burn in the fire, a huge sense of freedom came over me.  All that seemed so important then to fight about in court seems trivial and nonsensical today.  Today I stand free of the past.

What are you holding on to that you could symbolically let go?  A hurtful letter or email?  A voicemail full of criticism that you listen to over an over again?  Would today be a good day to be free of the past?

"The Universe does not know if the vibration you are offering is because of what you are imagining, or because of what you are observing. In either case, it is responding. Emotion is your guidance or your response to your vibration. Your emotion does not create. Emotion is your indicator of what you are already creating. As you think, you vibrate. And it is your vibrational offering that equals your point of attraction. So, what you are thinking and what is coming back to you is always a vibrational match. The emotion (your Guidance System) is telling you what's coming."

--- Abraham

Have you ever felt lost?  Alone and confused?  Not knowing what your next step should be?  We all have those moments of despair - even me.

In the moments of my deepest longing and despair, I am not shy about asking for miracles and more importantly expecting to receive them.  Miracles may seem like a lofty request, but they're not.  They happen when we get out of our heads and into a space of awareness to receive them.

My miracles aren't burning bushes or the parting of deep seas.  My miracles are subtle signs, messages, chance encounters, an intuitive thought, or a change in perception that allows me to reframe my perspective.

I've been asking for miracles lately. Today they appeared.

The first miracle was a message in one of the meditation books I read each morning:  "We can believe that nothing is impossible in human relationships, if we depend on the help of [the Universe]." 

The second miracle was in the Buckeye Honda women's restroom.  I washed my hands and turned around to open the door.  There on the back of the door was a coat hook in the shape of a dragonfly.  Yes, a dragonfly!  Those who know me well and who have known me long also know that dragonflies are big magic in my life.  Every time they appear in any form, the energy will shift around me and change will take place. 

The weekend before I went out with my husband for the first time, I sat down at a table where very single one of the women sitting there had a dragonfly motif somewhere on her clothing, purse, jacket . . .  I silently said to the Universe, "Bring it."

Today I stared at the dragonfly hook on the back of the restroom door and said, "Okay."

What signs have you received lately?  Have you asked for miracles? 


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