Are you looking for the secret to success? Here is an excerpt of an article on www.psychologytoday.com. It is a very simple model for success in coping with any challenging situation.
Goal Setting - Mental Rehearsal - Self Talk - Arousal Control
"With goal setting the recruits were taught to set goals in extremely short chunks. For instance, one former Navy Seal discussed how he set goals such as making it to lunch, then dinner. With mental rehearsal they were taught to visualize themselves succeeding in their activities and going through the motions. As far as self talk is concerned, the experts in The Brain documentary made the claim that we say 300 to 1000 words to ourselves a minute. By instructing the recruits to speak positively to themselves they could learn how to "override fears" resulting from the amygdala, a primal part of the brain that helps us deal with anxiety. And finally, with arousal control the recruits were taught how to breathe to help mitigate the crippling emotions and fears that some of their tasks encouraged." (How Navy Seals Increased Passing Rates, Bakari, Akil, II, PhD, Nov. 9, 2009, Psychology Today.)
By using this simple process, the Navy Seals increased their passing rates from 25% to 33%! Add the dynamics of life recovery coaching - encouragement, validation, acknowledgment, accountability, & energy processes and you're sure to succeed!
The other day a young woman called complaining of feeling stressed-out. After she explained the situations she thought were stressing her, we explored which of those situations really effected her. (They were obviously effecting her mental and emotional states.) It turned out there was only one change to which she had to respond.
When asked what she wanted, she said she just wanted to feel calmer, not so anxious. We started to look at what was next (setting small achievable goals). The next thing to do was drive home. I asked if that was achievable. The answer was “yes”. What was next? Eat a snack. What will you eat? An apple. Can you see yourself going to the refrigerator, reaching in for an apple, and eating it? Yes. Is that achievable? Yes. Within moments the young woman was feeling calmer by setting simple goals that were easily achievable.
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- How have you felt overwhelmed by looking to far into the future?
- How can you set achievable goals?
- What’s next?
- Is it achievable?
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