Have you ever had your heart set on something and at the last minute it didn't manifest? Usually when that happens all the feelings of hopelessness and disappointment flood into our being. We feel let down. It's only natural. It's how long we stay in those feelings that determine whether the experience will be the gravity that brings us down or the springboard for new spiritual growth. How can we ensure the experience will kick us up and not down?
By changing our perspective.
When we become connected to the larger good in the Universe and live our lives by Universal Law, we develop faith. Disappointment loses its power over us because we can trust that whatever is happening is for our best and highest good. We cannot reach this level of faith and trust; however, by judging and criticizing others involved. That only brings us down further. It's is totally letting go of our expectations and falling into the open arms of the Universe that we can turn disappointment into growth.
Recently, I thought I was going to another city to do a group coaching session. The person who was coordinating the event called a week before the date to cancel it. The disappointment I felt was unbelievable. After hanging up the telephone, it took me a few hours to turn around my perspective. It took a lot of self talk about how it wasn't meant to be
. I was being saved from something and that something in my better interest would come along. And maybe it wasn't even about me. Maybe I was supposed to go somewhere else, do something else, and be with someone else. All that self-talk didn't immediately change my feelings but it was a step in the right direction.
I chose not to go to that city at all which disappointed someone else. Instead I flew to Seattle to visit friends.
Yesterday I boarded a plane to Seattle. The first flight of the journey from Columbus to Dallas was delayed by storms for over an hour. While sitting in the waiting area, a woman and man began discussing the delayed flight. The woman turned to me inviting me to commiserate with them.
I denied the invitation and said, " I would rather be delayed and have a safe flight."
The man continued to talk about the storm system and that "they" could fly around it; that it was moving north so the flight wouldn't be through the storms. He had been watching the radar.
"I trust they are the experts and know more about the weather than I do
," I said. He didn't talk to me anymore.
The woman mentioned she couldn't decide whether to wait at the airport or stay another night in Columbus. I suggested she think about it and do whatever felt best. Within moments that woman and I were in a conversation that lasted over an hour.
Silently I thought, "Maybe it's not even about my disappointment, the canceled workshop, or my Chicago friend's disappointment. Maybe everything changed so I could be right here, right now for this woman."
Later while on board the plane, I learned a new phrase - bumpy clouds - a kind term for turbulence. Sitting next to me was a young woman and her mother. The young woman clutched her mother's hand in fear during the bumpy ride. After the flight smoothed out the young woman asked the flight attendant if she had experienced a lot of turbulence during flights.
The flight attendant responded, "I look it as an amusement park ride. Amusement park rides are ten times more bumpy than what we just experienced." Then gently the fight attendant said gently, "It's not our time; not our day."
For whatever reason I did not go to that other city, I did not conduct a workshop, I was disappointed, and I disappointed someone else. Yet because of all those "disappointments", I was in the right place at the right time to help someone in the airport waiting area and I witnessed the simple miracle of profound kindness. More will be revealed.
How can you change your mind about a disappointing experience to use it for your personal growth? How can you keep your eyes open to the lessons and miracles that will come as a result of your not getting what you want?
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