Creating illness is a common theme among the clients who come to me. It's often a creation of fibromyalgia, arthritis, rheumatoid arthritis or some other debilitating dis-ease created by the mind/body to allow them to check out of life.
Rather than listen to their own inner guidance system, they stay stuck in the belief that they must do what they are doing even if it's every fibers of their beings are screaming, "Get out! This is not right for you!"
As women we're often taught to take care of others at the expense of taking care of ourselves. We become martyrs failing to listen to that silent voice within us that says, "This isn't right. This doesn't feel good for me. This is sapping my energy."
A client came to me with a diagnosis of fibromyalgia. She recanted her life. She was divorced. She had previously had a high profile job as an executive in a non-profit organization, creating programs to help the mentally ill. As the position grew so did her perceived responsibilities born out of fear that she had to control the situation. Rather than asking for help or saying "no" occasionally, she continued to work harder and longer. Her career took control of her. Gradually, her body began giving her signals - headaches, insomnia, digestive disorders, tense neck and shoulders - all of which she ignored until her body finally screamed at her and she was given the diagnosis of fibromyalgia.
I listened intently to her story. I noticed she enjoyed telling it. Her story wrapped around her like a cocoon, keeping her safe from engaging in life at its fullest. Tentatively I offered a new possibility - maybe she could change her mind and heal her body.
As I suspected, this client was not interested in getting better. She was comfortable in her pain and her diagnosis.
What's your body telling you?
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