Originally published July 2009.
In the book, Relationships & the Law of Attraction
, by Abraham-Hicks publications, it said, “ We attract relationships that cause us pain because we need to affirm our core beliefs about ourselves and we attract the relationships we need to help us grow.” But what does it mean when we experience pain in a seemingly healthy, loving relationship? It is within that relationship where we are safe and unconditionally loved that we often experience the most pain as we try to re-enact an old pattern, heal a deeper wound, and begin to mature emotionally. That relationship becomes the greenhouse that allows our soul to bloom.
It’s safe to be alone and work on ourselves. We can totally focus on our own personal development and self-growth. We might feel intermittent loneliness but any deep underlying insecurities may not arise. Any defenses and old patterns of behavior go into remission because we aren’t triggered by another person.
If we do grow, chances are that we will become very attractive. There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who exudes self-confidence, well-being, and a beauty that can only come from within. If we’ve progressed very far, we’ll attract a safer, more loving relationship than the last one.
Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. ~Marcel Proust
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