Have you ever tried to push an idea or action on someone and had them push back? So you pushed harder. She pushes back. And the pushing continues until a full-blown conflict ensues? The harder you push, the harder the push-back.
Have you ever felt pain or heartache because you saw someone drowning in the quicksand of one of life's problems, threw her a rope and she threw it back in your face? Confused and hurt, you became consumed with worry and anxiety by trying to help someone who doesn't want help. Not only does she not want help, she doesn't see any danger. At times like these, it's time stop pushing and start leading.
You cannot save someone who is drowning in quicksand by jumping in yourself. That action just causes two people to drown. You could stand on safe ground and throw a rope for the drowning person to grab and pull herself to safety. But what if she doesn't know she's in danger? The rope will be thrown back into your face, leaving you with feelings of pain and resentment.
In my experience, the best action to take is to stay on firm ground, standing in the light and wait for the other person to ask for help. Trying to push solutions only makes YOU a part of the problem. It may give you a temporary feeling of self-righteousness but it rarely helps the other person.
Stop pushing solutions and start leading by the clarity of your example. Remaining strong and staying in the shining light of spiritual well-being, peace and authentic happiness is the most powerful action you can take.
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Even in your rightness about a subject, when you try to push your rightness toward another who disagrees, no matter how right you are, it causes more pushing against. In other words, it isn't until you stop pushing that any real allowing of what you want can take place.